Mom Chat

We write a sales pitch to our best friends.

According to the statistics across the nation, Indigenous children make up the highest percentages of a growing demographic across Canada. In some cities, this means it is our children who are fastest growing demographic.  What that means is what sources or resources, or entry points are there to help not only our children but ourselves, move forward into a pathway of light, innovation and prosperity. While we know about the negatives, we strive to have a peaceful place. That home. That energy of love and light. Community and belonging.  This is not some far off thought. This is truth.

Yesterday when I sat with a group of moms, the themes that came up were,

-We want the best for our children

-We feel language programming in our Indigenous Language or an Indigenous Language would serve our children in a deep healing and supportive way, though it is not happening. What would and could make that happen? We do know models that work.

.-What and how to create safety and mentor positive relationships?

-Safety knowledge is different for us when we leave our homes to the cities, and the friendships we also build are very unique, to other moms,

-We know that education starts and stays with us as knowledge keepers of our culture and communities, which becomes very difficult in a city and with new relationships to make with classroom teachers, principals etc.

-We know that our communities may thrive and our kids may thrive off better back home in our communities, though we are in the cities for work, for school, for health.

-We do feel we lack connectedness to resources.

-We feel compelled to show leadership to our children in our many amazing fields of knowledge bases. We are teaching our children many amazing things thanks to help as well from the mentors around us who are acting too like family to our families.

-We carry within us strengths.

-We’d like to be able to build upon those strengths in places where we can be mentored.

There are many more stories here. When I sat with the women, I shared my own stories as well. Like constellations of some distant star, we mapped out our stories in a short visit.  There certainly was time for more.

Writing a compelling sales pitch is about spending time with those stories that sit close to your heart. It is about exposing your vulnerable truth. That is by the way your gift. It is then finding your tribe. 

The one thing I learned a long time ago: deep sharing and sharing about our lives is not ego driven, or egotistical. Deep sharing or even sharing in general is a way we identify ourselves. When we can talk about vulnerable issues without even thinking they are vulnerable we are moving past ego. We are shifting a mindset that has been blocking us, our relationships, even our own view. We are moving into a mindset that serves to help, to build, and to ignite.

The answers really do lay within us.

We only turn to books and research to verify what we already know. Books are amazing things that we should all be writing too.

Carrying a gift is really something we need to honour. We know that because our Elders tell us that. Understanding what our true north is and believing in that, is something all of us wake up to do each day. We also know what is within us, and what makes us feel inspired.

What you love to do may not be expressed on paper. Finding what you love to do is about aligning your heart to your mind. This is your sales pitch. That story there which you dream about and know about because it feels like your voice is parallel to the other voices who also speak, or express that same vibe.

Some of us have to remember those “omg yes” experiences to remember that is your passion. Your kindred moment.

That is your sales pitch.  That place that warms your heart.


36 things that bring me joy, inspired by #katespade

Before Christmas, of last year, I treated myself to a new handbag from #KateSpade. I still carry my bag, and it keeps me organized.
I have not bought a new handbag in years. I was so fortunate one year, when i returned to work an old friend passed on me on a Coach bag.  I had not had a new bag in years, and what a nice act.
She passed a designer bag onto me at one of my lowest points financially. This was extremely thoughtful and kind.
Wallets and hand bags, are so much about who we are. I now carry a Pendleton wallet my sister gave me. Seriously I get a lot of compliments on it as well. It is gorgeous and fits perfectly in my Kate Spade purse.
Its where we store our favourites. Treating myself to a new bag was my treat to myself after a long year, sort of like, a trip to the candy store for kids I suppose.
When it came in the mail it included a postcard that said “She practices random acts of joy” and wrapped in beautiful tissue paper.
I love the small touches like that, and, joy is something I have been thinking about since January even though my January has been a steady climb, I believe joy is super important to remember in life.
For me, joy should be a core value.
So my joy list would look like this:
1. conversations. i love to talk, and about anything, people that value communication and conversation.
2. being open. this is a hard one since on top of being open we have to be vigilant, i value openess still.
3.  books. poetry.  literature. cereal box words. signs with words. words.
4. gardens
5. cypress hill & old school ’90’s music.
6.  beyonce: formation, missy elliot: work it, keasha tick tok, digable planets
7. a new lipstick
8. things in three
9. freesias & lilacs- flowers
10. crescent moon
11. old jeans & fuzzy sweaters, or leggings and fuzzy anything
12. oranges, lavender
13. very windy days
14. candles on a table when eating
15. strings of lights
16. long streets to walk along
17.  trees that touch above when you walk
18. nostalgia, adventure and the fun of adventures
19. lavender and hot pink sunsets
20. when my husband calls
21. “hello”
22. “i missed you”
23. cards
24. designer car rentals
25. strong legs
26. foothills & mountains
27. writers
28. moonlight bike rides
29. lily pads & frogs in the spring
30. coffee with your lover
31. limestone buildings
32. bowls
33. making my kids their favourite foods
34. any boots
35. more boots
36. serving punch at a birthday party
(37. long beaches along Lake Superior)